Your Mental Health Is Important

Mental Health isn't a priority for most people. Many people do not pay attention to it, most people neglect it. A lot of people do not believe in it, or even prioritize it because there's so many distractions in the world, that you really forget to attend to your feelings, and your thoughts. There's so many ways to distract your mind from your emotions, your feelings, and thoughts so most people like to stick to what they know how to do, instead of learning new things because of this thing called habits.

When you have been behaving, thinking, and moving a certain way for a really long time, you do not even realize how that could be affecting your mental health because you think this is normal behavior, due to what you are around, what have been programmed into your paradigm, your subconscious mind. It is not an easy thing to recognize behaviors when you are surrounded by the behaviors all the time.

For example, if you have been raised in a household, who could of been arguing, when communicating their feelings, or expressing themselves. You will grew up to think that is normal behavior. When you are trying to express your emotions, and feelings with another person, you might come off a little aggressive, which might not be great for the other person who was raised in a household, where they calmly expressed their feelings. They might not understand you, and will completely cut you off due to not understanding why you act a certain way.

You also could have been raised in a household, where you were afraid to be yourself, because your parents always picked on you when it was time to really express yourself, so you end up in hiding and hiding who you really are so you can please others around you. Which causes people pleasing.

You could also have grown up in a house where your parents relationship was extremely dysfunctional, toxic, and abusive. This was what you were witnessing when you were a child, so you grow up to believing that abuse is love, and when someone is screaming at you, abusing you, and handling things in a toxic manner. This is love, and you accept these behaviors because of what you were witnessing as a child. These are all habits.

Whatever the case may be, the habits that you are used to is causing your mental health to decline. When you are used to living a certain way, you do not think that you will be able to change your ways. You definitely can change everything about yourself. But first, you have to know your behaviors, before you can change them, so you can change your mental health.

A lot of people yearn for change, but do not ever do anything to change. Most of the time, they feel that they cannot change, do not know where to start, have to many distractions pulling them away from the change, refusing to let the old go, so everything still feels the same. Change does not happen over night, and it requires a lot of work for you to see some results. Results do not come right away, but you have to believe that they are on the way, because if you don't, you'll find yourself going back to your old habits, and way of living because of impatience.

When you want to change your mental health, you have to dig deep into your family background. You're suffering due to what was going on around you as a kid. There's so many things that distract you from understanding what was going on in your home life, so you never really processed anything. If you grew up in a abusive home, you could of turned on the TV to ignore the background noise, put some music on, but whole time you're hurting because your parents are fighting in the next room. Could even be scared because of the domestic violence. You could also have parents who are very hard on you, treats you like a possession, tries to make you perfect, so you don't "embarrassed" them. Nobody addresses anything, just leaves you confused, hurt, and wondering. No one ever apologizes to you, but instead try to reel you in with some gifts to distract you from the fact that they were abusing each other next door, or abusing you emotionally. You witness all of these toxic behaviors, and eventually get even scared to open up because no one has ever asked you how you felt. Instead, you kept it all inside, and watched your favorite TV show to escape how you were feeling. So you grow up being very closed off, not ever explaining yourself, your emotions, your feelings because your inner child is still hurt because your parents has never ever asked you if you were okay. Bottling up all your feelings, and emotions has really caused a lot of pain, suffering, and depression that is still going on currently, in your adult life.

I first want to say, you're so strong, you're valid, you matter, and your feelings, emotions, and voice is really important. Especially to me. Although, sometimes that's not enough. But in this blog, I will show you how you can heal your inner child, acknowledge it, and how you can start becoming the best version of yourself mentally.

First thing first is, acknowledging your inner child. Knowing that there is a inner child. Here are some questions you can ask yourself:

• What are some things that you faced as a kid that were really painful?

• What were some traumas you never healed from?

• What did you enjoy doing as a child?

• What was the career choice that you chose as a child?

• Did you ever feel neglected and alone?

• How did you handle being alone?

• Did you have any friends growing up?

• What emotions have you felt and never expressed?

• Where you able to express yourself as a child?

• What activity did you enjoy as a child? What did you enjoy about it, and if you stopped why?

• What are you passionate about? Do you have goals, and dreams? Did you ever try to pursue them? Why or why not?

These are some questions to get to started, on awakening your inner child, and healing it. Just remember, it takes some vulnerability, it is okay. Be patient with yourself, because it could be hard trying to talk about things you don't want to talk about, or has never talked about. Take your time, and do not beat yourself up for not getting it right the first time, and understanding yourself the first time, this is all about patience, and being uncomfortable. Honestly, if it makes you feel uncomfortable, just know you're on the right track. Healing is uncomfortable, especially when you are used to focusing on everyone's else pain and not yours. Just know that, I am so proud of you for taking these steps.

Next step, is acknowledging the things that has happened to you. A lot of us, go through traumatic events, and just push to the back of our heads, and go on with our lives. A lot of people, will use substances (smoking, drinking, using drugs, having sex, partying) to make them forget the pain, but forcing yourself to forget won't ever make you forget. Instead, God will keep showing you the same life lessons but with different faces, different places, so you can acknowledge this. Eventually, just hurting you more. This is why it is important to pay attention to yourself, your emotions, your feelings, because once you acknowledge it, you'll see the lesson in it, then you can forgive yourself, and all that is involved, even if no apology is distributed. After that, you release it to the Universe, and never look back on it. Dwelling on the past, does nothing besides keep you stuck there, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Acknowledge it, understand your emotions, and feelings, and then release it. Here are some questions to help you understand your emotions, and feelings:

• What hurt my feelings? Why? and How?

• My feeling are hurt because

• My emotions are..

• How do I feel at this very moment?

• What was I feeling?

• How could I avoid this situation from happening again?

• What emotion was I feeling? Sad? Angry? Betrayed?

• Why am I avoiding this?

• What situation has hurt me, that I cannot let go of..

If you can do this, good job. You're on the way to a healthier mind, and most importantly releasing those bottled up emotions, feelings, traumas, and situations. Be proud of yourself for doing this because I know it is not easy. It takes a lot of vulnerability, which I know you are not used to doing.

After coming up with some answers, I want you to write a letter to your inner child, tell your inner child about all the things you're doing now. All the proud, and happy moments that are going on in your life. This exercise will make you forget all of the bad feelings you were just writing. After writing to your inner child, burn all the past emotions, situations, feelings. This means to NEVER look back.

There is no reason to revisit, the past now that you have released it to the Universe, it is gone, and out of your way, and will not be in the way of your new life. If you do not allow it.

This is the first step of bettering your mental health, there are many steps, but this is just the beginning. I don't want to overwhelm you with much information, because someone with ADHD aka myself, if you try to do to many things at once, you will be back at square one! Make sure you are taking your time, and do this as many times as you like. 3 times is better than 1, or every time you are hurt, come back to this blog, and answer those questions, and then release it.

You are very strong, you matter, your experience, your voice, your feelings, your emotions matter.

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