IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF YOUR FRIENDS WON’T EITHER!

I hate to be this person, but most of the people you call friends when you don't love yourself, are friends with you simply because you are weak and you don't love yourself. I don't mean this in a cold hearted way. I am saying this, as they know you have a huge heart, who will over extend for them because you do not prioritize yourself. They use your vulnerability and kindness for weakness. They use you because they know you will never say "No" to them. They love you because they love how you love them, not necessarily because they love you as a person.

See the thing here is, most people can see the light in you. They come in to distract you from seeing the light in you. This is why so many people trauma dump on you, so many people call you when there's a problem, so many people expect you to jump when they say jump. There's so much happening in your life, because of other peoples bullshit, you forget that you, yourself is a person who deserves genuine love and you, yourself is a person who deserves to be taken care of, just like how you're always taking care of people. You forget all of that though, because you have a bunch of kids to take care of.

See, when you're spending so much time trying to prove yourself to people, when you spend your time trying to find love in all the wrong places, when you spend your time trying to find love that's outside of you. It will always force you to go back to you. Every single time. But most of us, are so scared of being alone with ourselves that'll we'll skip that lesson every time just again to be loved unproperly.

None of these people really love you, because you don't love yourself. Most of these friends, are mirroring huge lessons, are triggering huge insecurities, and are forcing you to be alone. Most of these friends are showing you why you should be choosing you. Most of these friends are showing you, why you need to love yourself first. The key in life is to understand the lessons that God is trying to show you. Most of us, overlook it because we forget that we even have a God. But God knows you. God knows your traumas. Your pain. Your insecurities. Your weaknesses. Your drama. Your problems.

Your cries. He sees it all. So why not place these situations right in your face for you to understand what he's trying to show you?

Yeah sounds crazy. Keep placing what hurt me in my life to remind me of my traumas. But the thing is, you need to be reminded. So you can stop running from them. So you can understand the root of the problem. So you can choose yourself. So you can heal your wounds. So you can connect with God. Most of these tests, are to see if you're going to stick by the Devil's side. The Devil's side is always going to be against you. The Devil's side is always going to deplete you. The Devil's side is always going to have you running in circles until you understand. If you keep ignoring the signs and ignoring what is happening right in front of you, you will never grow up to be the person God has assigned you to be.

When you don't love yourself, that means you are living in hate. Everything around you is going to be hateful. Even the friends, because you are living in that energy. That's when it's easy for the problematic friends to come in your life and add more destruction. But when you move in love, live in love. Love yourself, gain a relationship with yourself. You'll be able to find the light within you. You will be able to connect with God and level up in LOVE.

Now when I say "love yourself" a lot of people who claims to be in love with themselves, are really egotistical people. Loving yourself will never ever ever ever ever mean to bring others down to uplift you. Will never mean being mean, because you have something over the other. Loving yourself means loving everyone around you as well. You're so happy and confide in yourself that, you wouldn't mind uplifting someone else up in LOVE. And I'm not talking about those fake woke people who claim they love themselves but have to put someone else's down to make themselves feel high. That is not love? That is ego.

People need to really dig deep in their wounds. People really need to learn about who they are. People need to heal their egos. People need to spend time in isolations to hear those voices in their heads clearly. People need to understand that this life is full of love. You need to move in love to receive it. You will never find the perfect love trying to blame everyone else. You will never find a good relationship by ignoring the relationship you need with yourself and God first. People suffer in this generation because they lean towards hate more than love. There's no such thing as genuine love for a lot of people and this is why they struggle.

MOVE WITH LOVE. Forgive your neighbors for not being able to love you the way you needed to be love. It's your turn and time to find that love within so you can be the example for others. So you can help others find their light and love for themselves so they can love others too.

God will always forgive you for everything. So it's time you forgive them for everything. And forgive yourself for not knowing everything.

Start moving in love. When it comes to yourself and when it comes to others.

And forgive those who couldn't love you in the way you needed at the time. The devil has a way of keeping everyone in cycles. Not just you.