Here’s How I Release MY Insecurities

Having insecurities, having anxiety, having depression and having fear are all negative feelings, that we shouldn't be feeling. It's really not fair to us when fear takes over. It's really not fair to us when anxiety takes over. It's not fair to us when insecurities take over. It's not a good feeling when any negative emotion has taken over our mind and has control the outcome of our life in the moment.

I used to have extremely bad anxiety, I used to really be insecure. I always compared myself to other women. I always ruined my relationships by speaking in to existence that he was going to cheat and find someone that was better than me. I never thought I was going to be loved. I didn't think I was pretty and I was struggling internally with trying to follow my dreams. But I really did not know how to because of my negative beliefs.

In this article, I am going to tell you how I got rid of my insecurities and how I do not let my insecurities determine my life, myself, my love life and my career.

Insecurities are just outdated perceptions of past situations. Past words. Past arguments. Past trauma. That you need to LET GO OF!

Thats the first step:

Letting go.

You need to let go of everything that has happened to you in the past. The past doesn't support the present. The past isn't the present, so whatever someone did to you, yesterday literally doesn't matter. Holding on to something for more than the day it happened, it just carrying extra weight and burdens into the next day. This is why you could be depressed and stressed out. You need to let go of the past completely. Stop talking about it with friends. Stop bringing up what your partner did the other day. It doesn't matter anymore. Let it go. Everyone has room to make mistakes, they can learn from them. Now if they choose not too, you know what to do next. Release them. Don't keep someone around who is causing any negativity or drama in your life. Your energy shouldn't be wasted on things that don't matter. And the past doesn't. That's the hard truth. Anything that happened that's not in the present moment does not matter. You need to let it go. Holding on to it, is what's making you depressed, angry, sad and insecure. Release and never look back. If someone else's is bringing up your flaws from the past. And loves the past version of you so much, release them. They aren't good for your soul. They are trying to keep you stuck in a hole, where you were clearly unhappy. Let them go. They're not worth it. Release anyone who you grew apart from, who you no longer resonate with. It's important to let go of the crowd, you were around when you were feeling your absolute lowest. They have contributed to your low insecure feelings, and someone with good energy will never make you feel that way.

The second step:

Forgiveness.

Forgive all that has persecuted you. Forgive all those who has went against you. Forgive those who has said bad and terrible things about you. Forgive those who has stole from you. Forgive those who has mistreated you. Forgive those who has abused you. Forgive everyone for their mistakes. You do not need to be friends with these people. That's not what I'm saying. But forgiving them, is releasing a huge part of your story. You are now putting that hurt and trauma to rest, because you're no longer holding anger, resentment, and judgement in your heart. You're forgiving so you can feel at peace with the situation. You don't need a real apology because most won't even apologize because they feel like they haven't done no wrong. But that's when you get to be the bigger person and just accept the apology so you can move on and heal for yourself. Forgiving everyone is just a way to be at peace with your past. When you don't forgive, you're forever going to walk around with negative energy and be bitter because of situations that had happened in the past. Now I'm not saying forgive someone and take them back for doing bad things. But I'm saying forgive and release for your mental and physical health.

The Third Step:

Pray!

Talk to God. Tell God what happened to you. Vent to God. Pray to God. Ask him how to forgive those around you. Ask him how to heal your insecurities. Ask him how to better your mental health. Ask him how to release your fears and anger. Ask him to protect you from all evil. Ask him to remove judgement. Ask him to find love in yourself. Ask him to heal your insecurities. Ask him to be your friend. Most of the time, we aren't healing because we want to be friends with someone so badly. Regardless of how they're treating you. Regardless of the situations they had put you through. It's easier to have friends than to heal what's going on inside of me. Most people use their friends as a distraction which is even worse because there's no real love in the friendship, just a way to cope when times aren't right. God will be the realest person on your team. It's time to confide in him. It's time to connect with him. It's time to build a relationship with him. It's time to tell him your biggest secrets, because no one will ever tell! I promise you that! God is the best friend you could ever have and he's really going to help you achieve most of the things you're battling with currently. Talk to him.

The Final Step:

Stop letting people have so much power over you. Peoples words shouldn't define you or affect you. You shouldn't let what people say bother you. You shouldn't let people scare you. You shouldn't let someone have so much control over your mind, where you are feeling like whatever they're saying about you is true. People will do anything to attack you, because they're insecure themselves. You cannot let another insecure person dictate how you feel about yourself? They're literally insecure and do not know what love is themselves. They do not know how to love or anything about it. So why let that person who has no experience with true confidence make you feel less about yourself? Get your power back. Do not let anyone take your energy and power away from you. This is how they will always win because they know that they have control over your emotions, so they're going to play with it every time. Do not let someone have this much power over you. It's not worth it. It's not worth your peace. It's not worth your sanity. It's not worth your time. Get your power back and know who you are!!

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