Heal Your Traumas To Release Your Fears

Yes it's time to heal your traumas. The ones from your childhood. The one from your teenage days. It's time to stop neglecting your inner child. It's time to acknowledge her or him. It's time to heal ourselves. It's time to understand who we are. Without healing your childhood traumas. You will not be able to get rid of the fear, anxiety, depression, and more!

We all have trauma from our childhood that has made us become the way we are right now. We are scared to love? Why? Because our parents were emotionally unavailable, silenced us, made us feel less than, emotionally abused us, physically abused us, verbally abused us and sometimes even use us! I can go on and on and on about what parents do to their children to make them act as the way they do in their adult age. Obviously, people that love you wouldn't do those things, so we would be so scared of love because were so used to feeling so horrible, what happens if I fall in love and it gets taken away from me like it always does?

We are scared to chase our dreams? Why? Because we never had anyone to tell us we were able. We expect people to tell us to go for it. We expect people to applaud us for our accomplishments. We expect people to want to help. We expect people to do so many things because we're still waiting for someone to really be a parent to us. Where was our parents to motivate us to chase our dreams? Where was our parents to help us and congratulate us? Where was our parents to wipe our tears when we are feeling discouraged. But instead we have parents who are jealous because they haven't accomplished what we accomplished.

We are scared of change and new beginnings? Why? Because were so used to chaotic energy, bad things happening and life falling apart. Changing and healing could be scary because where is that going to take me? Out of something I am not used to what's so ever? What's going to happen? Am I going to be able to make it because I'm so used to crazy energy?

We are scared to cut people out of our lives and focus and put ourselves first? Why? Because were scared to alone? We're scared what people are going to say behind our backs? We're scared people are going to be mad because we're setting boundaries? We're scared that no one is going to like us anymore?

We are scared to be alone? Why? Because all our lives we were alone and we're tired of alone and not heard, not seen or understood. So we pick up on all these friends that aren't real friends to feel seen, when in reality we still aren't seen because we don't see ourselves first.

These are all trauma responses. You haven't healed and this is why you're having these beliefs. Your inner child has a lot of things to say to you, so you can move on from that part of your life. You probably think you moved on because you're not thinking about it but your inner child is reflected in most of your relationships, friendships, and even career.

You have bad friendships with woman because your mommy issues has been neglected. You have bad relationships with women because your mommy issues has been neglected. You have bad relationships with men because your daddy issues has been neglected. You have bad friendships with men because your daddy issues has been neglected. These relationships are showing and mirroring to you what you need to fix in your life within yourself to master the relationships you've always wanted since you were a child.

It's not fair to you at all that you have to go through this because your parents didn't do the work when they were a adult to make sure that you don't have to deal with generational curses. So unfortunately it's your time to shine and break them. So break them.

Focus on your healing. Heal your wounds. Heal your trauma. Release the anger. Release the resentment. Release the bitterness. Release the sadness.

Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.

Forgive your parents for not tending to your needs. For not making you feel loved, seen or heard. Forgive your parents for the verbal, and physical abuse. Forgive them for not understanding you, forgive them for everything they have put you through.

Give it all to God. Talk to God. Talk to a therapist. But mainly, talk to God about your mental health. Ask God what should you do to better your mental health and relationships with yourself and others. One thing for sure, if you don't have a good relationship with self. You won't have a good relationship with anyone around you. You need to heal your inner child and make sure they're heard and seen. Stop neglecting it like your parents did. Don't be like them. Be better. Pay attention to your wants and needs and desires.

Stop letting your traumas determine your future relationships.

Build a relationship with God. For he is your father. He created you before they created you. He knows what you went through and seen it all. He seen all the nights you have cried. He seen all the nights they were gaining up on you. He seen all the nights you were struggling. He seen all the nights you were suicidal. He has seen it all. And is waiting to you to connect with him, so he can show you the unconditional love that your family has never showed you. One thing about God. He's family. So connect with your spiritual family. They are a lot better than your real one.

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