FORGIVING THOSE WHO HURT YOU..

I know, it's a very hard thing to do, especially when people have done us wrong so many times. It's so hard to let go of what was done to us. Our brains just don't want to move forward because how dare someone put us through such a traumatic experience? How are people so wicked, so evil, and malicious? How are people living with themselves after the mistreat of you, and I. I totally understand how you're feeling, and I understand why you would never want to forgive that person, those people, ever again. I hear and see you, and just know I would never tell you something that is bad for you.

The whole point of me, writing this blog, is so you understand how forgiving those who has wronged me has enlightened not only myself, but my life. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you need to be their best friend or partner again, or whatever the case may be. Forgiving someone is releasing the situation, letting it go, and never letting it cloud your mind again. Forgiving someone, is also letting go of those feelings that you've been feeling every since it happened. Forgiving someone is allowing you to move forward, and heal because there is nothing you can really do to change what happened besides moving forward. Forgiving yourself, is letting go of the way you're treating yourself because of your mistakes. Forgiving yourself, is helping you release your old self. Forgiving yourself, is aligning you to your higher self.

I know it is not an easy thing to do, it's not easy to forgive someone, or yourself. Especially, when you have a habit of blaming everything on everyone. You have a habit of blaming everything on yourself. The people around you, always blamed you for something or made you feel like everything was your fault. When were so used to living a certain way, it makes it so hard for us to move forward, because we spend our days holding on to the past memories, because not only does our brain get addicted to those traumas. The brain does not know how to maintain anything that could balance our thinking because we are so used to thinking so negatively about the situation, about people, and ourselves.

Well, I want to say start today but releasing the things you cannot control, Things happen to you because as much as I hate to say it, it was suppose to help you in your journey. Without those tests, they are no testimonies. You needed these traumatizing events to happen to you, because you had to grow into the person that God has designed you to be. If God can forgives us for all the sins we did in our lives, you can forgive yourself for hurting you. God forgives you, every time. He makes it known that he loves you regardless of any mistake you made, because in my last articles I said the devil works very hard to get you to stay on his side. Most of the time, we are on his side without even realizing his influence and affect on us. But God, has forgiven for all those times you doubted him. This is when you need to start forgiving yourself for everything you put yourself through.

You need to love yourself regardless of those mistakes. You need to love yourself regardless of the darkness and the influence. You need to love yourself enough to want to let the old things go. One thing I learned is when I hold grudges, I am holding on to pain. Pain and trauma. That I refuse to understand, that I refuse to move on from because I am trying to figure out why did I even go through this in the first place. Back to my last few blogs, repeated cycles happen to those who do not learn. When you do not learn, you're bound to find yourself learning the same painful lesson, that you ran away from last time. I learned that you need to forgive everyone. EVEN IF THEY DID YOU THE DIRTIEST! It's okay, I promise because again you cannot control people, on how they act, how they react, and what they do. But you can control how you let it affect you, how you let it bother you, how you react to it, and more. When you let go of the pain that others caused you, you open doors to new things that can bring you happiness.

When you let it go, you are releasing it to God, because remember God sees everything. You do need to get some revenge, you don't need to get everyone against this person, you do not need to even talk back. Pray to God. Forgive this person for their ill intentions, and move forward. You reacting, you holding a grudge is only feeding into what this person wants. Most of the time, it's your energy. If you spend all your time thinking about what someone did to you, you're sending your powerful energy to this person just for them to do it again to someone else. When you do not respond, and give it any reaction, not only is your silence killing this person's ego. You're healing yourself by not letting it affect you, like they thought it would. Stop giving your energy away so freely, this is why you're so depressed. Then you're stalking from a fake page to see if they're sad without you, but truth is they took all your light and ran with it and is showing that. SO pick yourself, and choose to forgive your neighbors.

You're showing them what a healed person should be doing, and to be honest that will kill them inside because they're going to want to know how you do it. Eventually, they will learn through you because the roles will be switching. It always does. Forgive yourself, and forgive your neighbors. I am not saying forget either, always remember these people weren't loyal the first time. Do not think that forgiving someone means taking them back in.