10 THINGS That COULD BE DESTORYING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

*this is trigger warning for anyone has faced abused of any sort.*

I have noticed that mental health is one of the least things that are talked about, or taken seriously. Everyone starts to take mental health seriously when they heard someone has died due to having severe mental health issues, and I personally do not like that at all because it means that no one is attending to their mental health and I feel like more people should!

The journey to fixing your mental health can be years, but it's called a journey because it's not all love and light, and easy turns. Some of these are hard truths, some of these lessons are about ourselves that our shadow self has been trying to block us from as long as you let it. When you are discovering things, learn to accept these emotions, these feelings, these thoughts because they are important to pay attention to. The more you run away from it, the more battles, you have to fight. Acknowledging this feeling, thoughts, or a emotions, is step one to healing. When you are holding on to it, ignoring it, and running away from it, only allows it to keep lingering back around later. But if you acknowledge this, and treat it as someone that wants to be heard and seen. You can get to hear it, to understand where its coming from, and then release it to God or the Universe. The only thing I realize whatever is hurting, wants to get heard. Just like when you want people to hear you. Pay attention to YOU. Everything will be okay, and you will win every battle because all of long you've been ignoring yourself. Those vicious words starts to turn into positive affirmations, and those demons at night will turn to the secrets you've been wanting to know this whole time.

In this blog, I am going to be talking about things that could be making your mental health decline rapidly.

First, I want to start with social media. Everyone in this generation, has multiple social media platforms. Which exposes you too many different types of energy, emotions, and feelings. When you spend most of your time on social media, you are watching other people and their content. The content could be an influencer who is super rich, living the rich girl/boy lifestyle that you always crave. There could be another influencer who is giving toxic advice, living a toxic lifestyle, but since this person has a lot of followers, you hold their advice extremely high, even over your own. There could be an influencer, who does extremely nice things for the community, and that leads you to be crying because of how heartfelt the video is. We are feeling so many emotions, feeling so many energies, just with a simple scroll. This is what makes it toxic. You are feeling too many things at once, listening to too many people's advice and story. Comparing yourself to someone because social media tells you that you have to have it all together at the age of 23. Which is all lies. Social media, is not real, and you should only use it on your down time. You shouldn't spend your whole day watching Tiktok, or Reels on Instagram because then those unnecessary emotions, that envious energy comes in because you do not love yourself. You spend so much time looking at everyone else's life but have no time to fix the issues that lies within you. Seeing someone else happy online should not make you upset, angry, or mad. It shouldn't trigger you at all. This is why you need to prioritize your mind. Learn how to prioritize the things that make you happy. Learn to do the things that brings you joy. Normalize picking real time over social media. You spend time on social media over the things that you really want to do.. to avoid feeling, or to make time go by a little quicker. Social media is not real, and you should not be spending so much time in front of a screen. This is why you could be depressed, because you are not getting any sunlight as well. Instead, having about 8 hours on your screen time, watching all different types of energies live their life, and you are just forgetting to live yours.

Next is, poor eating skills. Yes I know, I love a good snack too, and I love quick and fast food, because cooking is just too much for me. But with being in a inflation, and following dreams. Cooking is the best thing to do. Not only, you have a choice of what you want to make, it is a lot cheaper than going out to eat everyday, or ordering Ubereats, which is solidly like $50.00 for something simple as McDonalds. Cooking also stops you from being on your phone, or digging deep into your thoughts. It gets your mind off of that daily overthinking, which could feel really good in the moment. It gets your mind to learn new behaviors. It also can start to become a fun habit, that you're choosing instead of getting Doordash everyday. If you're not used to cooking, and you did a whole meal for yourself, this is something to be extremely proud of. Don't ever forget to be proud of yourself for doing something, you never imagined that you could do. Start cooking today, and watch how much you'll end up enjoying food shopping, and cooking your favorite meals, and start to put that in you weekly routine.

Next, is the company that you keep. Yes, I am talking about that fake best friend, that you know is fake. Yes I am talking about that one friend you never met in person, but their behaviors and decisions don't mix with yours. Yes I'm talking about that family member who argues with everyone. That bullies you for no reason. Who drinks alcohol and start abusing everyone in the house. You know that their energy is not good for your energy. You know it doesn't match what you want to be. You know that they're wrong, but you keep entertaining the negativity. You keep them around because you're scared to assert real boundaries. Not everyone deserves to have access to your energy. Especially, when you're not like them. I understand, we all have people pleasing tendencies, and it's a really hard thing to get rid of. But aren't you more tired of being someone you're not? Aren't you tired of talking bad about people, you know don't deserve it. Imagine, if your friend is sitting around talking bad about someone, meanwhile smiling in their face. Imagine what they do to you, when you're not around. Imagine, your life if you choose what makes you happy, over what someone else wants for you? Imagine, if you did not tolerate what that drunk person was doing to you? Imagine how happy you would be once you stop allowing people to have so much access to your life, your time, your energy, and your money. Don't forget those emotions and feelings. These types of people like to be around, because you have good energy. They want to catch you doing bad things, so they can forever use that against you because you are a THAT one good person. These people like your energy because you're a light, and they're dark and they need you energy in order to thrive. These are people who couldn't grab control over their life, so they want to stop you from controlling yours because God gave you opportunity. They want to dimmer your light, any chance that they can get. It is time to assert real boundaries, so you can find the friends who actually love you for you. I also want to say, if you're feeling insecure around a group of people, it is also NOT your thoughts, these feelings that you have are people projecting their feelings on you, so you're bound to feel what they are feeling because ENERGY IS POWERFUL! ASSERT YOUR BOUNDARIES TODAY! If someone doesn't make you feel good, then that's your cue to let them GO!

Next, is lack of movement in the body. You have to exercise. Your body needs to move. It actually feels so good after you exercise, or even go for a walk. I am not the one to really go to the gym, I am still learning how to do that. So if you're not the one who likes to workout at the gym. You're not alone. It's not an easy thing to do. That takes time, and patience. Start where you can, rushing your mind for something it's not ready for will only get you back to square one. Take your time. Go for a walk. Walking is actually very healing, and you can implicate some other workouts, and fun activities while you're walking. You can use your creative skills. You can count your steps with you Apple Watch. You can listen to music, or your favorite motivational speaker. You can manifest by daydreaming your life goals. Or even record yourself releasing your emotions, and feelings. Praying or talking to God while you walk. There's so many things you can do. I like to work my abs out when I go for my 3 mile walks. I also get a lot of things done, I like to make music. It's one of the many hobbies I enjoy doing. Writing music, or practicing my music, makes me feel super good during my walks, and they make it go by faster. If you are the one who likes to go on walk, listen to a podcast that will motivate you, or even listen to your own thoughts, and release these negative thoughts to God. When I am outside, I feel more connected to the source because God sends so many signs through animals, trees, insects, water, you just have to pay close attention, and to not ignore them! The sun is also a really good friend, when you are inside, with no sunlight, you are bound to be more depressed than a person who gets at least one hour of sunlight a day. Try going on a walk, and see how it makes you feel internally! Another thing, that makes me feel super good, is dancing to my favorite jams, while looking in the mirror. Not only do I feel like that girl, I am burning calories, and not embarrassed because nobody could see me but me!

Next, is loneliness. A lot of people thinking be lonely is a bad thing, or you're not a good person because you don't have many friends. I think the compete opposite, I think you care about who's in your space and energy. To me, you get extra cool points. Honestly, I think being alone is a underrated super power that everyone should have. Being alone, being single is not as bad as society makes it seems. It's actually the best thing that can happen to you, in your teenage years, your early 20's. Even your late 20's. Most people, that are not alone, and that are in-love, don't have any time to really find out who they are because they have a person to cater too, they have a person distracting them, they have a person who is in the way. Most people, don't have time to chase a dream, because they are chasing a lover. Or they are chasing someone to love them. They also don't have a partner who will uplift them to do better, because their partner do not know what they're capable of because they don't even know what they're capable of. And this goes for both parties. They spend their time trying to find love, instead of trying to find out who they are, so they can feel real love and find their soul mission in this lifetime. Now I am not saying, you shouldn't get a partner, but I am saying you shouldn't rush it. Being alone is actually fun when you have a motive. So what's your motive? What's your dream? What's your goals? What do you want your outcome to be? When you find something that you love to do, being alone will never bother you. In fact, makes you so happy that you do not have someone distracting you from your purpose all the time. So if you're alone, and depressed. Find your motive. What hobby do you like to do? What is it that you like? What do you want for yourself? How do you see yourself in the next 5 years?

Next is, childhood neglect and trauma. This is a huge one, because everything that you are possibly going through which I listed above. This is the number one reason, why you are battling with your mental health, or have a mental illness. When you have been neglected as a child, this means you were prone to doing everything alone. You did not go to your parents for advice, you didn't tell them your goals or visions. You didn't tell them the grades you got, you didn't tell them when you were sexually assaulted, you didn't tell them about the time you got pressured into sex. You didn't tell them about anything. Rather, you did everything alone. This is such a negative behavior for a child to have and to grow into because children definitely need their parents. Not just in a physical way, such as taking care of them, buying them food and clothes, sheltering them and buying them some toys, and games. Children need their parents EMOTIONALLY, AND MENTALLY. Emotional neglect is actually abuse because this ends up making the child into a people pleaser, people chaser, with ADHD, bipolar disorder, BPD, sociopath, a narcissist and more.. Not to mention, the trauma's they have to face. Parents who verbally abuse each other, who has a domestic violence in their relationship. Parents who verbally abuse their kids. This is not only harming you as a person. You're adding karmic debt for your future, you're harming a child's subconscious and conscious mind. The parents are programming them that this is normal behavior, so they are going to turn around and do the same exact thing, and it starts generational curses. This is why some people are battling with their behaviors and their self because they have inherited their negative behaviors and made it their own to break. This doesn't have to be with just abuse. This could be with anything. Racism, gossiping, drinking when there's a problem, smoking, eating unhealthy foods, not exercising, watching tv all day, not cleaning, what you believe in, if you curse or not, respecting other people. There's so many things that children pick up on as they're growing up. This is why fixing your mental health is so important because when your mind is healthy, you're teaching your kids how to have a healthy mind. You're slowly changing the world!

Next is, your environment. Now I was the girl who really hates change. I still am that girl, who isn't used to switching up, and changing things. I like to have the same routine, I like having the same friends. I like staying in the same location. But when God literally force change upon me. I am glad God is in charge in fixing my life the way it needs to be. CHANGE IS REALLY A GOOD FEELING. Most of us, are depressed because of the environment we live in. Yes that hometown. Yes that job you've been working for years. Yes that state that you were born in by the choice of your parents. At a certain point of your life, you have to leave. Leave all of that negativity behind. Listen, when you dream big, you will not thrive in the community, that once known you as the person that you're no longer. People will try so hard to pull you away from those huge dreams that you dream of all the time, because they haven't grasp what their life is about yet. They will make you confused of yours, and that's when the projection starts. When you leave all that behind, you get to start all over. New place, new friends, new chance to show new people the real you. No more hiding who you are. People live in a shadow because others want them too. Change your environment. It is really okay to outgrow people, places, things and jobs. You're not thinking that you are better than anyone because you chose better for yourself. Don't let people's projection stop you, for doing what is best for you. This is your life purpose, and no matter where you chose to go, it is destined. No amount of shit talk, backstabbing, projection, or mean words are thrown about you, or at you. You are destined to do the things you are entitled to doing.

Next is, insecurity. Many people do not believe that they are insecure. Let me tell you. Insecurity is in many more people than you think. That's their ego, who's feeding this lie, not only to you, but to themselves. Yes, I said it. Most of your love, is egotistical, so this is why you're receiving the love that you are putting out. When you're using your ego all the time, you're using your low vibration energy, which is attracting all the lovers that you're getting. Let's describe them really quickly. Emotionally unavailable, a narcissist, an abuser, someone who's just overall for themselves, and that's it. Well, I hate to break this to you, this person is just a mirror of how you treat yourself. And how you're looking for people to treat you how you should be treating yourself. Now if you do not love yourself, and you have a lot of behaviors to show it, I do not need to list them because everyone knows what they are. If you do not love yourself, your partners are only going to show you what your ego attracted, and not your higher self would of attract. This is why your love life is not so good. You need to know how to love yourself first, before anyone could love you. You need to show people how to love you, and when you show them how you don't, they will treat you as such. Then you get so mad at them for hurting you, when you were responsible for this the entire time. Your ego will always take you in the wrong direction. But learning how to love yourself the way your inner child deserves, is the key to attracting and keeping the right partner, and the great mental health that you deserve,

Second to last, is not having the money you desire. I want to say stop letting money determine your worth. Back to insecurity, people who are insecure turns money into a personality trait for security because they think it makes them better than the next person, who might not have all the money. Or maybe because the person may not have all the money, but since they were the one that they cheated with, this is what you'll say to make yourself feel better in the moment. I must say almost everyone has gotten in an altercation, and someone says " Well I have more money than you." Or they say that about a significant other who cheated on them with someone else. Money does not make you a good or bad person. Money is an object, and should be treated as such. I've notice that money had a huge impact on my mental health, I felt like since I do not love myself. The money will! Yes it did! It got me everything that I wanted. And yes that's the problem because the stuff that I wanted was only to make my ego feel good, and was actually destroying who I was. Yes, the drugs, the drinks, and all the unnecessary things I could of saved my money for. But my ego told me I had to keep up with the latest trend, the newest clothing pieces, the newest phone, I have to be successful at 21, so I waste all my money on this quick fast way to get money, or going on vacations back to back, just to have an Instagram post for my friends and the peers I grew up with to see. It's all too much, you're losing your mind trying to keep up with everyone else. I learned this when God took every job from me, and told me to follow my dreams. I'm learning I can do all of these things myself. Like doing my hair and nails, when I was spending $500 to get those done. Now I am actually chasing my dreams because it's something I love doing, instead of doing things solely for a check at the end of the day or week. When you chase the money, you will never get it. But when you let money, flow to you, because you know that you'll be taken care of no matter what. That's when you succeed.

Last but not least, society. You give society your powers everyday, because you allow them to have such a huge place in your life. I say this because you're living how society programmed you to live. You're dressing like how society is telling you to dress. You're behaving a certain way because society is telling you should behave like this. You're judging your body and the natural things that comes with being human because society is telling you. You're loving people that you do not want to love because society is telling you have to. You let society depict the life you're going to live. You let society tell you what to eat, dress, look, wear, act, etc. This is not the way you should be living. Holding someone else's standards so high over your own, is why you have major mental health issues. You can't live in your truth, so you're angry at yourself and the world because you're choosing to live this way. People pleasing is a hard thing to overcome, but just know you're not losing anyone when you're being someone you're not. This person is attracted to the person, that is in their own head. They do not love you, therefore, they're not for you. The people that you attract when you're being your true authentic self, those are the people that love you. This has perspective has changed everything for me. It will change yours too. Do not let society make you a person that you're not. You are a leader. Not a follower.

These are 10 things that could be affecting your mental health. This is plenty more, but these were my top 10. Just know you're capable of changing your entire mind, and behaviors. It starts with noticing the problem, and trying to fix it.

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